Find What Feels Good

Do you ever wake up with an inner conflict that has you torn between whether to enjoy your life, be where you are or whether to GO OUT and get out of your comfort zone?

Well, surprisingly, I do.

I used to hate both these “philosophies”. Both contradicting each other but both claiming to help you improve your life, find yourself, and what not. But it turns out I had both of them wrong….

For me getting out of your comfort zone meant forcing yourself to do things in ways you don’t want to. Trying everything and anything. Whereas loving what you have right now meant being happy with what you have and just flowing through life without wanting more.

Now it may be that I misinterpreted both these school of thoughts, or it may be that the innumerable self help sites which force their opinion on you, do not delve much into their meanings. Nonetheless, I think I had an epiphany today…

So I wake up today sick and feeling awful. Cold, cough, and all the irritants that occupy this condition were dragging me down. I desperately wanted to feel better and be able to go to college, so I did what I do when I’m clueless. Yoga.

This post is not about yoga or its benefits. So don’t worry I will not list a 1000 reasons to practice yoga whether you want to or not.

Anyways, I like the fact that I can get my mind off things when I do some routines so usually when I do not feel “hippie”, I find a yoga for that situation. Sure enough, it was ” yoga for when you are sick” today. And like all the other times, Google (God bless for Google), listed a million links and videos which had the power to help me (no matter how remotely).

This is where my conflict or rather internal argument began. There is this one yoga channel that I absolutely love (Yoga with Adriene) and I love to explore new videos and routines she posts. Ofcourse there was a yoga routine for when you’re sick. And it began,
“I am too comfortable with Adriene now, shouldn’t I explore more channels? See what they have to offer”
“But Adriene’s the best. Other channels are boring and monotonous, you know it…”
“Yeah, but I haven’t tried all of them yet, let’s try a new instructor today”.

So the get out of you comfort zone department won, and I was trying to follow a different channel which I could only bear for 5 mins and was back with Adriene after that.

Sad on my inability to try out new stuff, it finally hit me….

Both these philosophies are same in their basic meaning. Find what feels good. (Something that Adriene keeps reinforcing and reminding us in every video).

Both the thoughts want us to explore new things. Where the first tells us to go and try things which intrigue us and not be afraid to step out of the routine, the other tells us to explore new areas in things we love already.

They both want us to explore and find new stuff that we can genuinely enjoy. In other words, FIND WHAT FEELS GOOD.

So if I like coffee, I don’t have to force myself to have tea every morning. I am allowed to enjoy my coffee. Maybe try different forma of it and see which one I love. And if, someday, a type of tea, say green tea, intrigues us, makes us think,
“Yeah, I’d like to know how it tastes” …we should go and try it.

And there you have it. My brain’s bs out on this blog. Now I don’t know what makes sense and what does not, for I am sick and not in my senses. But all I want to say is, find what feels good and have fun.
Bbye! 🙂

Aprajita Rana

What Psychology taught me in First Year

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You know, I so wish that this post contained all the theories and topics that my teachers have tried so hard to embed in my brain via my seemingly ineffective ears, but it does not! Sad…i’ll have to rote learn all that!

But corny as it may sound, I have come across a few “life lessons” as one may call them, in my first year of being a Psychology student.
So here they are, five things studying psychology had taught me:

1) Expectations Ruin Surprises.

Has it ever happened to you? You’ve got this image all build up, of how the situation is going to be and the things you’ll do etc etc. Well I tend to do that! From images of what college would be like, to exams, to simple silly competitions and friends and almost every other expectation I have ever catered to has been shattered ruthlessly. In saying that however, these situations have also somehow played out so perfectly that it’s honestly, MADENNING.
This is when I realised, that in hoping for the “mental picture” to materialize, I did lose out on many entirely “awesome” moments which were infact going on.
The logic is simple, if we spend too much time on complaining how this place right here is not what you wanted, we can never realise that in reality it infact is perfect. After all our attention has limited capacity! (I do remember some course stuff yo! *Nailing General Psychology like a bawss*)

2) You’re all the subject that you need!

The part which i find the most interesting in psychology is our practicals. Even though I find writing it all down a huge cumbersome task and finding the “subject” (person on whom we’re supposed to do the practical) a pain in the ass, I still love practicals because we get to test ourselves and know ourselves better.
Every time I have made myself the subject of the study, I’ve learned something new. For example: I am highly neurotic, and even though I am highly open to new experiences and things, my conscientiousness to do something is so low that scales don’t even mention it! (I can support this by citing the example of my irregular blogs!!!😼)
I love finding stuff about myself. It somehow proves how crazy I am which gives me mental peace ( 🙈 just kidding!)

3) The Best way to live, Is to stop, listen and observe!!

I can honestly say, that my tendency to observe things and people has increased manifold. Not just people, but myself as well. I literally go “okay, I think some stimulus has triggered a mood change in me” (true story: Barney meme)
What I have also found is that this is infact the only way to learn. I know for a fact wherever we are, our mind is mostly in a state of turmoil. We’re thinking other stuff, waiting for our turn to speak or just not completely aware of the situation. And obviously, we miss out on details, or forget stuff!
I know I’d have missed this, if I were on a phone or inattentive:

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A simple yet such a poignant quote expressing this guy’s emotions with a beautiful brevity.
“Each minute is full of 60 lessons, we just need to pay attention” (#LillySingh). We are surrounded by such unique things and beings, it’s us who lack the power to observe and comprehend them.

4) People Just want to be heard.

Confession: I read this somewhere, but since I’ve tried to incorporate this into my life, thought I’d as well mention it.

People just want someone to talk to. They have their shit, and they need to share. Agreed you have yours too but hey, it does not hurt to listen! I’ve started listening more (yeah, people who know me it’s true! You didn’t notice? Back to point three dawg!). It feels good to be a confidante, but more than that, you realise that every one is sad and miserable, much more than you and this makes you feel better, for you realise that you are not alone!
( Or maybe it’s just me, I am a bit sadistic, so yeah)

5) All your troubles are either a test or for a test

Although the title here is self sufficient, I’d still like to blab some more.
Remember whenever you are in a “situation” this will pass. (And if this situation is an exam…you will pass!)
Even though this is more of a philosophy than psychology, nothing is permanent and in the end it’s all good and for good!

K. Thanks. Bye 🙂

Aprajita Rana

I know this! Sorry!

Did you know?
There is a small band like thing in our brain called corpus callosum. It connects the two hemisphere. If damaged, the person will suffer from alien hand syndrome (AHS). In this, one of the hands gets a mind of it’s own. It grabs things without your command, slaps random people around you, infact it has been reported by one of the victims that her left hand tried to murder her when she was sleeping. She had to fight and restrain it.

It’s crazy isn’t it….How there is so much that we don’t know!? And how there is so much we don’t want to know!

I remember being this curious kid….who needed to know new stories and things and facts. Then I would come home and narrate my new foundings to as many people as I could rope in. I never understood how can people not jump around like maniacs having gained these snippets of information!!  How can you not feel amazed on finding out that a lion sleeps for 20 hours a day… Or that the word “salary” stemmed from “salt” (it meant the amount a soldier needs to buy salt, an essential but expensive comodity in Ancient Rome)!?

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Now… it’s a completely different story. I understand now how my victims used to feel. Much ahead of me in time and age, they had already learned that if a piece of information does not fetch you marks or money, it’s mostly useless. There’s no profit in being curious. Also the information that does fetch you marks is a necessity. You cannot enjoy it!!! No no! It’s just to be learned and secretly blamed for forcing you to work.

I understand all this now. I’m an adult. Much much mature. So to swoon over the fact that it was infact World War II which popularised the belief that our environment influences our behaviour (just something our psychology professors bore us with) is irrational, and childish!
 
But I still do! I still am happy to find this out. Maybe people like me never learn! After 12 years of school trying to teach me just to get marks and be done with it, I’m still here feeling glad that I know crocodiles are cannibals.

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The psychology class

Who are you?
Probably the most pet question of many “discover yourself” classes and courses.
At one point or another all of us have come across a post or an article or some known/unknown person asking us this, and then adding “you know like who are YOU…deep inside” etc etc.

My reaction to this ambiguous, soul searching and somewhat annoying question is always something like…
“Huh, that’s true who am I really? Hmmm….yea maybe this..that…does this define me…does this sound cool?…ughh it’s irritating!! Me out!!”
And before i can reach the deep dark corners of my gray soul, I am on YouTube watching yet another superwoman video! (I love you Lilly…honestly!!)

Anyways, the reason I am here wasting our time is that today in class ( I am a first year Applied Psychology student…just adding this cuz it sounds pretty dope), we did a fun little game to see “ourselves”.

We were given a list of animals (mammals only…) and we were to select any three and rank them.
For example…
LIST: Horse, lion, cow, tiger, panda, dog, cat, elephant, whale, bear, monkey, gorilla.

I chose: 1) Panda
               2) Tiger
               3) Dog

So the motive for this really cute exercise was to give us our three selfs….
1) the qualities associated with this animal is your ” Ideal Self”. What you aspire to be and dream to be…how and what you actually want to be.
2) the qualities associated with this animal is your “Role Self”. This is how you potray “you” to the outer world…. how you project yourself.
3) and this final animal is your ” Real Self”. This is what you are, what your actual traits are (whether you realise it or not.)

Now this exercise is, in no way a personality analysis test or some real thing. It’s just a fun little game….it has no proof or anything! But since I liked my results…here I am misleading you all! 😛

But I think most of us work this way though, we are something else and pretend to be a totally different person while aspiring to be another thing altogether! And the worst part is…that all this while, we ignore and undermine our true self!

So here’s a post to be more of a bitch (uh huh ;P) and less of a tiger!

Hope you enjoyed…thanks for stopping by 🙂

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